5 Ways to Cope with Adversity from Divorce to Bankruptcy
By David B. Ross, Esq | Bankruptcy, Divorce and Custody Attorney| Bradford, McKean County, Pa, Coudersport, Potter County, PA
1. Focus on Your Goals
When some problem is demanding your constant attention and sapping your mental energy, it is easy to lose sight of your goals. But figuring out where you are going and how you are going to get there may be exactly what you need to go over, under, or through your present circumstance. If you find yourself discouraged about where you are, sit down and focus on what you really want. This is how you make sure you get there!. So close your eyes and picture your goals. Don’t let them slip away!
2. Forget About Your Problem
Let’s face it, when life is in your face, sometimes you just need a break. It’s ok to say to yourself, “ I need some time.” Step away from the negativity that is trying to take over your life. When we continue to focus on the problem, we usually just make it worse either in reality or in what we allow our obsession over it to do to us.
Give yourself permission to do something else. No more repeating “I cannot believe this happened to me.”
Stepping away can just be a few minutes to yourself with a pint of ice cream. It could be a walk or a visit to the gym. It could even be a little get away vacation. Or if you really want to get out of your own head, try focusing on someone else’s needs and help someone else.
Don’t forget about friends and family. Sometimes we isolate ourselves and we lose the power of others when we do that! Don’t let fear or embarrassment or hurt rob you of relationships.
3. Focus on the Solution
If you focus only on the problem, it gets bigger. If you think about solutions, the problem becomes smaller. If the problem is too big, try solving just a small part of it. You will be surprised by how freeing that can be! If you can’t handle it by yourself, try friends, family, or a professional. Many times people come to our law firm with what to them are huge problems with family matters, debt, or bankruptcy. Together, we often find the solution! Sometimes it is immediate. Sometimes it is step by step, but there is power in finding a solution.
4. Be careful who you hang around
Your thoughts are influenced by who you listen to. Find people who are positive. Don’t listen to the naysayers . Find someone who believes in you. We all need those people.
5. Count Your Blessings
Sometimes it is good to remind ourselves of the positive things that have happened. It helps to put our lives in perspective. Today’s problem is really just a speed bump in the road most times. When compared to a lifetime of blessing, we realize it’s not so big or so bad.
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